Breaking the Myth About Affection
One of the most common misconceptions about autism is that autistic children do not show affection.
Myth: Autistic children don’t show affection.
Fact: Autistic children show affection in unique ways.
This important reminder challenges stereotypes and helps parents, teachers, and the wider community see that children with autism connect emotionally, but often in ways that may look different from typical expressions of love.
Affection Looks Different for Every Child
Autistic children may not always express affection through expected gestures like hugs or kisses. Instead, their love and care can appear in unique, meaningful ways:
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Sharing a favorite toy or object
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Drawing a picture for someone they care about
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Offering “deep pressure” hugs, which provide comfort and regulation
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Sitting close by in silence as a sign of trust and safety
These actions may not fit the traditional definition of affection, but they are powerful indicators of connection and attachment.
Why Understanding Matters
For parents and teachers, recognizing these unique expressions of affection is essential. Misunderstanding can lead to frustration or the mistaken belief that a child is “cold” or “unemotional.” In reality, autistic children may simply communicate love differently.
By learning to see affection from the child’s perspective, adults can respond with greater empathy and strengthen their relationship with the child. For example, if a child draws a picture of their family, this can be their way of saying “I love you.” If they ask for deep pressure hugs, this may be both a sensory need and an expression of closeness.
Supporting Affectionate Connections in School
Schools such as Special Education Cambodia play an important role in educating communities about these differences. Teachers can support students by:
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Observing and celebrating each child’s unique way of showing care
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Teaching peers to respect and accept different forms of affection
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Encouraging families to share what affection looks like at home so it can be recognized at school
This approach builds a more inclusive environment where every child feels valued for who they are.
Changing Perceptions in the Community
The myth that autistic children cannot show affection has long contributed to stigma and misunderstanding. Campaigns like the one by Special Education Cambodia are vital in shifting public attitudes. When parents, educators, and community members understand that affection comes in many forms, children on the spectrum are given the acceptance they deserve.
By acknowledging and appreciating these unique ways of showing love, we help create stronger connections between autistic children, their families, and their communities.
Final Thoughts
Autistic children do show affection—they simply do it in their own ways. From sharing toys to giving deep pressure hugs, their love is expressed through actions that reflect both their individuality and their sensory needs. Schools like Special Education Cambodia are helping to spread this important message, encouraging greater understanding and empathy across Cambodia.
